Party well at work? Let’s talk about what I DON’T mean.
I believe in celebrating a company anniversary, a project milestone, throwing a holiday bash. The official stuff.
I don’t mean that.
Don’t mean being the party that closes the hotel bar at 1 am and has a hang-over the next morning and regrets its indiscretions.
Party well at work is a mindset.
My colleague Robert and I spent three days last week with a high-energy team of international engineers and R&D folks. China, Malaysia, Sweden, Denmark, India, Jordan, the UK, and the US were in the house.
After the first dinner out, Robert observed “These folks know how to party.”
Agreed. And it’s not about the amount of booze that was consumed.
This is the mindset.
We go out and break bread. We don’t treat it as an obligation. We like to do it. We look forward to it.
WE GET IT. We don’t fake the community-building part. We have turned the switch.
And we frown on the one who finds reasons to not join. I have family obligations. Honor your family obligations. And pardon the cliché, honor the fellowship among your work family.
This is what partying well at work looks like.
The collective energy is high. We are light-hearted with one another. We enjoy communicating with each other beyond project constraints. The fun stuff and the deep stuff. And we feel closer to one or several of our colleagues after our party-time.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it?
I attend my share of business functions. I can instantly smell when a group merely goes through the motions.
We eat together. We don’t party well.
It begins with a personal choice. I have coached numerous business leaders who do inner battle with the social demands of being a professional. STOP fighting it. STOP faking your way through a social event. Yes, you may be an introvert, you may be tired that day. Now DROP the resistance.
It’s part of your job. You will not succeed without it. Community-building is non-negotiable. You will not like everyone in this community. Some folks, in fact, may irk you to no end, just like members of your own family do.
BUT YOU GET IT. This is a community, not an accidental gathering of folks.
Communities that thrive know how to party well.
Partying well is great fun, to boot.
Why on earth would you NOT want to party well at work?